Psychology of Coaching Your Own Child

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Most parents go into coaching with great intentions but the situation often deteriorates between child and parent because they are so concerned with either being too favorable towards their own, or too harsh on them. It takes a special psychology of coaching so that the experience ends up a positive one for all.  Psychology of coaching

Coaching a team sport with your child on the team should be one of the most rewarding experiences for both parent and player. However, problems often begin because kids feel extra pressure or are self-conscious when their parent is the coach. Additionally and for whatever reason, kids have a difficult time listening to and taking instruction from their parent. This does not mean the kids are bad or that the parent coach is too tough on their kid; just one of the parent child dynamics that exist.

A strained relationship can develop, but the good news is that it is avoidable when the parent coach can follow the key to coaching one’s own. The first consideration to take into account, even before thinking of coaching ones’ own, is whether the parent has the knowledge base to coach at the age level and the time to coach. Volunteer youth coaches do not have to be experts but must display knowledge of the basics or a willingness to learn those basics, along with the necessary enthusiasm to coach.

Once that is determined, parents should ask themselves the following to see if they should coach their own child:

Psychology of Coaching  Questions

  1. What is your motivation to coach? The answer should be because you feel like you have something to offer kids of that age and not just something to offer your own child. Unfortunately, many coaches decide to coach because they feel other coaches have slighted or will slight their child, so they want to remedy that situation. Many then proceed to do the same thing when they coach. If the motivation is simply to help further your own child’s development, it is best that you allow others to coach and work with your child on your own time. Parents, who feel they can honestly do a better job coaching than their current child’s coach, should try it though.
  2. Up to that age, has your child enjoyed practicing with you? If it seems like your child or you often get mad when practicing together, or they never want to practice with you, it is not a good idea to coach their team. Parents should not take it personal but some kids just do not want to listen to parents when it comes to sports advice, so it is best to take a pass on coaching.
  3. Does it seem as though your child plays better when you are not at their games or they seem to have more fun when playing for other coaches. Parents may have to notice this when their child is playing other sports, but if kids seem to feel extra pressure when you are at their games or they cannot be themselves with you around, it is best not to coach them.

You might say that if parents have to answer yes to those, there would hardly be any parents coaching their own child and you may be right. This is why the psychology of coaching your own child is so important. The good news is that there is a way to do it right.

# 1 Key to Psychology of Coaching one’s own 

The key to coaching one’s child is to coach as if your child is not on the team. The minute the team assembles, the parent coach must forget who their child is for that time. Easier said than done, of course, but those who can coach, as if their child is not part of the team, and treat them as just another player, create a memorable and enjoyable experience for all.

Obviously, the parent coach has to become a good actor and this is how to do that.

Be Fair – set up your coaching philosophy and stick to it. This philosophy should cover playing time, discipline, what is expected from players including one’s own, pre-game, in-game and post-game behavior.

Be Fair – Remember, coaches have a responsibility to all players, not just their own child, so give equal attention and equal respect to all.

Be fair – Treat own child same as others, especially emotionally. Of course, this one is the biggest challenge but is very important.

Be fair – Don’t expect more from your own child than you expect from the other players.

When the parent coach can do these things, the respect other players have for their parent will be apparent. The child will not feel extra pressure or self-conscious about receiving special treatment from their parent as the coach. They will be so proud to be your child and so proud to be part of your team.

Finally, when the game or practice is over, become dad or mom again, and forget about the psychology of coaching.



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